Its so frustrating that we as black women constantly have to defend ourselves. Why is the vast majority judged based on certain individuals who have no standards. Let my mistakes be my miatakes. Judge me based on who I AM. I think one of the biggest hypocracies is that the black community wants respect from other races but dont even respect themselves ! How can you want people to respect your women when you dont respect your women ? How can you want the justice system, and the education system to uplift the younger generation but yet you automatically place kids in a category based on circumstances that they cannot control ? Social media can do as much good as it can do damage. Okay fine if you wish to praise the women with big booties and small brains, but the least you can do is give respect to the ones that try.
If i see the quote, caption, meme,video etc that reads, “under 35 your not a milf, your just a BITCH with a baby” one more time. Look now, dont get it twisted i dont call myself a “milf” i dont wish to be a “milf” and i dont want anyone to refer to me as “milf” but a BITCH WITH A BABY ?! Thats so disrespectful! A bitch with a baby would be one that is in a bad position that she doesnt aspire to change, she chooses to do the bear minimum and looks forward to tax time to get that refund.
Being 20 something and single is not the most ideal situation, but that doesnt mean that i deserve any less respect then the woman who is married with a full time job and house with a picket fence. I may not be there NOW but I can get there ! I nurture my child, I love him enough to discipline him so he can be an upstanding gentleman, I teach him fundamentals so he can be an affluent member of society, and I play with him so he knows life doesnt have to always be so serious, and I pray with him so he knows god has all the answers.I may not have done things in the “right” order but still getting things done. Regardless of your situation having a child, another human being whos well being your resonsible for, is no walk in the park, its definitely a learning experience. A lot of it is problem solving, thinking quick on your feet cause its always something. I work hard and try not to complain because i know that my son is watching me, if theres one thing i would like him to learn from me its that you have to work for what you want, work dilligently, and stay ambitious. People can take your things, but they cannot take away your accomplishments.
Regardless of what people may see me as i know who i am, i would be foolish to allow outsiders comments, thoughts, and opinioms affect what I do. I hope that one day we can learn to help those that need help, respect those who deserve it, and give credit where its due.